Mama So bought some fake food products like those seen at Japanese restaurants as toys for my children, and
didi is particularly fond of the
pau recently. In the car, Xuan took his
pau and he was crying/whining for "
Bao, bao~~". Mama So chose to ignore and observe how pretty the clouds are.
After a while, Xuan said to him, “弟弟说‘请给我包’就我给你。”(She always put “就”in front of the sentence. Recently she uses “原来”for “应该”，e.g. “这个原来是妈妈蜗牛吧。”) Of course
didi couldn't say that, so she repeated it while looking at him intently, waiting for him to say something.
Didi said, "Arh". I found it so funny that I have to intervene, "弟弟说please", and he said, "Arh". I told xuan, ＂弟弟的"ah"就是"please"啦" and she gave up her toy willingly.
I am sooooooooooooooo proud of my little girl for being able to resolve conflict on her own initiative (mimicing how I resolve conflicts between them previously). She used to cry/whine and compete to see who is louder. Papa So and I have mastered the art of "one ear in, one ear out" so she knows I am just going to ignore or get angry if they cry. I seldom hear "You see
didi did this-and-that" considering how many times conflicts arise at home.
Training
didi to deliver fruits to xuan whenever I cut fruits for them helps. He offers biscuits to people without people asking. Explaining and delivering my promise helps. Xuan used to fight to watch the dvd that she wants, but I say, the one that
didi wants to watch is shorter. When he goes to sleep you can watch the longer one. So now when she wants to watch tv, she offers to let
didi watch first without demanding her way sometimes.
Luckily I have a lot (heehee, haolian a bit)...Other than the most memorable ones, think I'll donate all of them to his toy pile...Something for you to work towards, my son! 
Woah! Got the makings of Federer! :P
I noticed that he is not a very "soccer" boy, more ball handling rather than kicking. Of course he is too young to tell but his interest in sports is hard to deny, whereas Xuan is more a "clubs and society" girl :):) 
